bodies

We’ve got to stop making value judgements about body styles. Skinny is no better or worse than fat. Curvy is no better or worse than strong or weak or thin or green. And women are the worst culprits. Start with your best friends. Look at them without those filters of what they “should” look like. And if you do it right, maybe it will be easier to be pleasing to your own eye. Which is what we need.

I wish we could just start there. From square one. What you look like is just fine. Don’t believe otherwise. Anyone who says differently is not seeing you. They are parrotting fads and fashion, which do not last and have nothing to do with value. So stop that kind of thinking in its tracks.

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I blame social pressures. But if that’s to change I have to start internally. Shedding those (now) internalized expectations. Replace what society currently states every single day. – with something more accurate. Hopefully more humane. Changing my head allows for social change. We _are_ society. And not “buying in” counts.

I can go on and on about aesthetics. What constitutes “beauty” has to be cross cultural to have any relationship with truth. If current art practices have anything to say, its the unexpected that is beautiful. The differences. True beauty lands beyond standardization. We can measure and talk about it and compare all we want. But ultimately – beauty is nearly the opposite of attractive.

Or so I think
At the moment